What are Your Most Important Words for 2012?
January 10, 2012 | Filed Under Beginnings, Life, Marci Shimoff | no responses
It’s 2012 — the year the Mayan calendar ends. But instead of doom and gloom, I’m going to make 2012 the best year ever! That’s because I’m so excited about the theme I’ve chosen for the coming 12 months.
As you may remember, every New Year’s, I pick a theme. Last year’s theme was LOVE — a natural when I knew I’d be speaking about Love for No Reason throughout the year. (BTW, there’s a cool announcement about Love for No Reason coming up on Tuesday. Look out for it!)
This year, I spent a few days thinking about my 2012 theme, and I came up with a different possibilities, but none of really hit the spot. Then just yesterday, as I was leaving a Zumba class (all those endorphins seem to clear my brain), it suddenly came to me — my theme for 2012 is “thank you.” Simply that… thank you.
But those two seemingly simple little words can turn everything around. If I can say thank you to everything — no matter what — then I know my life will be joyous and more unconditional love will be automatic.
For me, saying thank you to everything means dropping my evaluation of whether something is good or bad, and judging every happening as to its “merit.” If instead, I can live with a continuous thank you, then everything that comes up can be viewed as a gift. This is a stretch for me, a chronic evaluator, but it’s one I’m up for. Because without a doubt, the happiest people I’ve ever met are those who always have a thank you in their hearts.
My selection of the thank you theme has already been reinforced many times since I made it:
–A friend passed away on New Year’s Day — a wonderful woman who lived with thank you on her lips despite a number of years with a debilitating illness. Her passing reminded me how fleeting and fragile life can be, but how infinitely precious. Thank you.
–Earlier today, I spoke with another friend and asked her how she was. Her reply was, “Grateful.” She said she’d woken up the past few mornings with a lightness and gratitude in her heart. None of her life circumstances had changed, but she was grateful to be alive. Thank you.
–Being single around the holidays has its challenges for many people, including me. But I got to be part of my nephew’s beautiful wedding celebration on New Year’s Eve and witness the great love between him and his new wife. Instead of feeling sad for being alone, I was inspired by their deep love and how they live in a constant thank you for each other. Thank you.
Here’s the process I recommend for you to select and use your theme for 2012:
1. Select a theme that sings to your soul. While you’ve been reading this, has a theme come to you? Are you having a strong pull to a particular word, phrase, or concept? Maybe there’s more than one. Jot them down. Sit with them for a while and see which one speaks the loudest to you. You’ll know you’ve found the right one for you when you’re uplifted just thinking about it.
2. Craft your theme into a short intention statement that becomes your “mantra” for the year. Mine is: I live this year in a continual thank you.
3. Create a vision board with your theme at the top. (I made mine last week, and I love looking at it.)
4. Make a habit of looking for the ways your theme shows up throughout your day.
I can’t wait to hear what your theme for 2012 is. Please share it with me on my Facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/
In honor of my 2012 theme of Thank You, I’d love to share a little gift with you. It’s a beautiful, short video from one of my Love for No Reason heroes, Brother David Steindl-Rast, a Benedictine monk who has started a worldwide gratefulness movement.
As Brother David says, “We are never more than one grateful thought away from peace of heart.”
May your 2012 theme, whatever it is, open your heart to experience greater love this year than ever before.
A Wonderful New Year Ritual
December 30, 2011 | Filed Under Beginnings, Happiness, Holidays, Life, Love | no responses
Aaah. A New Year! Woo-hoooo.
What I love about the new year is that we get a fresh start. Right now, you have a fantastic opportunity– you get to leave behind what didn’t work in 2011 and envision what you’d like to create in 2012. As this quote says:
“Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right.” – Oprah Winfrey
For the past ten years, I’ve had a simple New Year’s ritual that’s been a great way to ring in the new. I’ve shared it with a few friends who’ve loved doing it, so I want to share it with you. As the saying goes, Well begun is half done, so I suggest you do this either on New Year’s eve or New Year’s day to get 2012 off to a wonderful start.:
- Start with a 10 – 15 minute meditation in which you set your attention on releasing the old and opening to the new.
- On a piece of paper, hand write a list of all the things in 2011 that you’d like to let go of. This can include old patterns that don’t serve you, grudges or resentments you’re hanging on to, fears that hold you back, or circumstances that you’d like to change.It can also include not-useful habits such as eating too much sugar or not exercising. Make sure your list is as complete as possible with everything that didn’t work for you in 2011. My list is usually a few pages.
- If it’s easy for you to burn the list, then you can do that. If not, you can tear the list up in many pieces. As you release this list, imagine letting go of the energies that are represented on your list.
- Now, on to creation. Make a list of all that you wish to create for yourself in 2012.Include the habits you’d like to embrace, the external circumstances you’d like to create, and the internal experiences you’d like to have (joy, freedom, ease, love, peace, acceptance of all that is, etc). Be as specific as possible.
- Read the list aloud (whether you’re alone or with others). Speaking it out adds more energy to it. Feel each item as though it’s actually happened.
- Put the list in a special place, as a symbolic offering for your coming year.
Notice how you feel after doing this ritual. I always feel cleansed, lighter, renewed, and excited about what’s ahead.
Please let me know your experience with this and/or share with me any New Year ritual you love on my Facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/MarciShimoffFan
This is a special New Year’s for me. I get to spend New Year’s eve in an extraordinary way. I have the huge honor of officiating at my nephew’s wedding on December 31! He and his fiancée are two fabulous people and they’re a great match — their relationship is an inspiration. I can’t think of a better way to start the new year in this celebration of love.
May 2012 be a year for you full of wonder, grace, miracles, love and the deepest fulfillment of your soul.
With love for every reason,
Marci
P.S. Something exciting is happening on January 10 — stay tuned for the news.
How to Grow Your Heart this Holiday
December 23, 2011 | Filed Under Holidays, Love | 2 responses
At last, we’re in the final countdown of the holidays! I’ve been waiting excitedly to share with you one of my favorite holiday stories (at the end of this article) and my favorite advice for fully enjoying the holiday spirit.
If you think about it, all the gifts, parties, and holiday fuss boil down to one thing — love. Love is the #1 ingredient we need to experience holiday cheer and the absence of it is what brings holiday woe.
So how can you experience more love this season?
Practice being a good receiver!
What you say? Isn’t this season about giving? Yes, giving is a wonderful thing that helps us feel good, but if we can’t fully receive people’s gifts and kindness, open up to support, and let love in then we can’t actually FEEL the love.
Unfortunately, many people have a hard time receiving. Here are three ways you can strengthen your receiving muscle this holiday:
1. Pay attention to the gifts all around you each day — not just the BIG gifts, but the small ones, as well. Notice the kindness of the salesclerk, the smile on your neighbor’s face, the beauty of the winter landscape. Be on the look-out for the many gifts of the day.
2. Look for the blessings — even in the hard stuff, which often shows up during this season. Just as an experiment, assume that everything that happens is a gift for you. The universe is on your side. How would you look at and experience your challenges differently, if you imagined it was all for your good? Give it a try.
3. Savor the good. My neuropsychologist friend Rick Hanson says that it takes about 20 seconds to deeply register the good. So, acknowledge a compliment rather than dismiss it, express appreciation for the gifts you receive. Deeply take things in and bathe in them.
I’d love to hear what tips you use to open up and receive. Please share them with me at http://www.facebook.com/MarciShimoffFan.
Now, for a fabulous holiday story (receive it and enjoy)…
A Happy for No Reason Holiday Story
I was deeply touched by the following story that was told to me by a young father, one of my “Happy 100″ who I interviewed for Happy for No Reason:
When my oldest daughter, Victoria, was almost three, we read Dr. Seuss’s How the Grinch Stole Christmas every night to her before the holiday.
She’d curl up beside me as I’d read: “Every Who down in Who-ville liked Christmas a lot. But the Grinch, who lived just north of Who-ville, Did NOT!”
Victoria followed along as the Grinch unveils his plans to ruin the Christmas of the Whos. Disguising himself as Santa and his dog as a reindeer, the Grinch steals into the Whos’ homes and takes everything, leaving only the hooks and wires on the bare walls. But to his surprise, the Whos remain happy despite the loss of the presents and trees and trimmings and trappings.
He hadn’t stopped Christmas from coming; “it came just the same.”
On that Christmas morning, we woke just ahead of Victoria so that we could watch her three-year-old enthusiasm as she saw the presents under the tree. She first ran to the kitchen table where she had left a snack for Santa and his reindeer. She looked at the evidence of Santa’s visit: the cookie crumbs on the plate and the empty milk glass and the missing carrots. My wife, pregnant with our second child, and I beamed seeing our daughter so wide-eyed and excited at the thought that Santa himself had been in our home. Next, she ran into the living room and saw the presents under the tree.
We expected her to dive into them — but she didn’t. She held up her little hand and she said, “Stop. Let’s pretend. Let’s pretend the Grinch has been here and took everything and left just hooks and wires and we’d still be happy.”
So we stopped, and were happy. And like the Grinch, my heart grew three sizes that day.
I wish you great love this holiday season and every day — may you let the love in fully and allow it to grow your heart three sizes.
With love for no reason and every reason, Marci
Living Energy Day Interview!
December 20, 2011 | Filed Under Beginnings, Events, Life | one response
Living Energy Day starts tomorrow, December 21st at 8PM EST!
“We’re starting near the hour of the solstice and kicking off the longest day with a burst of energy! Get energized on Living Energy Day. It starts the shortest day of the year (if you live above the equator) December 21st, 2011. We’re hosting a 24 hour live teleseminar marathon to spread the word about energy healing.”
My interview with Sandra Crowe kicks off 24 hours of interviews about energy/energy knowledge. Listen in 7:30pm EST and 4:30 PST.
https://www.facebook.com/LivingEnergyDay
The Top Five Ways To Thrive During the Holidays
December 17, 2011 | Filed Under Holidays, Life | one response
For the last three mornings, I’ve woken up with the holiday song “It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year” going through my head. (Those store soundtracks have an insidious way of taking over your brain!). My spontaneous rebuttal is “It’s the most STRESSFUL time of the year.”
While this can be a fun and fulfilling time, it can also be a time of great challenge. Depression is higher during the holiday season than during any other time of the year.
Is there a better way to live through the holidays so that you plug into the “fun and fulfilling” part and lessen the “stressful” part?
I’ve been exploring that myself this year as I’ve been feeling some sadness these past few weeks. This is the first time in 13 years that I am not in a primary relationship during the holidays and yet I still want to keep my heart open and feel expanded and happy.
I’ve found a holiday prescription that’s working for me and I believe will work for you. It’s based on dealing with the five main sources of stress that can lead to the holiday blues:
1. Overconsumption – We tend to over-shop, overeat, overdrink, over-everything! Can you relate?
2. Loneliness – This is time when we can feel most isolated or alone-even if we’re surrounded by lots of people.
3. Time Pressure – In the mad rush of the season, we stop taking care of ourselves.
4. Financial Stress – No need to explain this!
5. Loss of Perspective – With such an emphasis on buying the right gifts, having the right clothes for parties and gatherings, and finding the right ingredients for our holiday meals, we often lose perspective on what really brings fulfillment.
Here are the top five tips to make it through the holidays keeping your heart open and your joy flowing:
1. Connect to your heart. When you find yourself reaching for that fifth gingerbread man or cup of eggnog, stop and take a few deep breaths in and out of your heart. For extra power, place your hand over your heart to stimulate the happiness chemical, oxytocin.
2. Find community and support. If you’re alone, make sure you seek out people to spend time with. Don’t isolate yourself. Once you have people around you, focus on the ways you appreciate and enjoy them, rather than getting stuck in your judgments or criticisms. Yes, family can bring up your “stuff”-but see it as an opportunity to work on your limiting patterns and let love prevail. (You may want to use the fabulous Ho’oponopono practice to help you let go and forgive).
3. Take time for yourself. In the midst of the holiday whirl is when we MOST need to set aside time to take care of ourselves. One of my favorite ways is to take a 15-minute hot bath with sea salt and lavender oil at night to relax. It feels delicious and it rebalances the body’s energetic field.
4. Serve others. Giving of your time and your heart to serve others who are in need will help take your attention off of the desire to over consume. Altruism and service are a fast-track to heart-opening.
5. Go spiritual. The time around the winter solstice when there’s more darkness is actually a very spiritual time. Take the opportunity to go inward-meditate, connect with spirit in any way that works for you. Spiritual practice is the best antidote I know of to help you keep balance and perspective during the craziness of the season.
With some gentle attention on these five tips, you’ll find yourself humming “It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year” and meaning it.
May the next few weeks be nurturing and joyful for you.
With love for no reason and every reason,